Often times the way in which we see our marriages rests on the way in which we see the rest of life. Our ability to experience genuine marriage rests in our ability to see ourselves in the Christ identity. The following passages draws upon the origin of healthy perspective:
"Therefore I tell you, do not be anxious about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink, not about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing? Look at the birds of the air: they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life? And why are you anxious about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin, yet I tell you, even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. But if God so clothes the grass of the field, which today is alive and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? Therefore do not be anxious, saying, 'What shall we eat?' or 'What shall we drink?' or 'What shall we wear?' For the Gentiles seek after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them all. But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you."
This passage is often used in sermons to explain to congregations the importance of not allowing anxiety control people's lives. Ironically, we live amidst a culture, which directly challenges this notion. Fast paced living surrounds us, successes defined by how much one can accomplish, and a lack of space created for genuine rest. And yet it seems that vast sections of the Bible are dedicated to conveying the severity of being able to live a life of peace, peace that comes from an individual's ability to trust Christ to handle all anxieties.
Verse 28 reveals one of the most interesting things about the above passage and the focus of this post. "Any why are you anxious about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin, yet I tell you, even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these." The author of this passage compares the lilies of the field to Solomon (arguably the one man in all history to have received everything life on Earth has to offer). All that Solomon has to offer comes up short compared to the lilies of the field. No matter how hard we try, we achieve, or we obtain we will NEVER out due the created order. In the beginning God created the heavens and the Earth, all of these other things we so desperately cling to are, to borrow from Solomon, MEANINGLESS.
We must willing to acknowledge the magnificent splendor in the created order. One of the ways in which we honor God is to pay attention to what God created. And God created marriage. We must choose to faithfully rest in the reality that when God breathed life into the flowers of the field, He breathed that same breath into the concept of marriage. Stop. Evaluate. And shift the perspectives of your pursuits from being about the meaningless anxieties of this world and turn them towards God's unparalleled creation - marriage included.