Perceptions of Marriage a Series
The sun is shining and the flowers are blooming. Romance is in the air and people's schedules are filled with wedding after wedding until September. It is wedding season. While there may be a laundry list of gifts to buy, showers to attend, and trips to be planned, we still do it. We book hotel rooms, schedule flights, buy new clothes, and sometimes even try and alter our physical bodies, after all these pictures last a lifetime. Regardless the effort we do so in reverent support of something beyond ourselves. We do so to honor the covenant cut between man and woman - the covenant that begins their marriage.
Our culture has tried to tell us that weddings are what make a marriage and if your reception does not look original enough or expensive enough than you have done something wrong. What the following series of posts does is attempt to realign our perceptions of marriage. Weddings are the place people make promises. Marriages are where those promises get lived out. Each of June's posts is from a guest blogger. Various individuals from differing walks of life (those who are single, those in a dating relationship, those engaged, and those married) have written about how they perceive marriage and what marriage means to them. As we walk alongside these individuals, may we be reminded that however difficult, however hopeless, or however fulfilling we find our marriages we are part of something divine. Marriage. How do you see it?
Marriage is Committed Compromise
Marriage is a compromise; the fitting of two souls into one life. I do not want to come across as a star crossed lover who does not comprehend all of the details that marriage has to offer, but I believe that my fiancé contributes to my life in such an incredible way, that being married to him is only going to make me more whole.
We are opposites in a lot of ways, but a lot of the things that I love about him are things that I benefit from having more of in my life. I believe that God made each of us to be molded together so we can benefit from each other. A marriage is about learning from one another and growing, both as individuals and as partners. Marriage is about a vow made before God to respect and love each other and to take the other as they are. My fiancé's determination to keep a strong faith, to love and support his friends and family, and to contribute to the world around him are all qualities he possesses that make me want to be a better person every day.
Marriage is about bringing both of our qualities together so we can have a more prosperous and enjoyable life. The thought of marriage gives me a happy feeling of curiosity to see the ways that he is going to bring fulfillment to my life. There will be hardships, but I am excited about the adventures that lay before us. Even the times when we will undoubtedly be living off Ramon noodles and granola are going to be times when we can discover something about each other. Each adversity is a memory to be made and an opportunity to grow from that experience. Being able to take this journey with him makes me excited for our future.
The marriages and relationships that I have been fortunate to be around in my life have taught me this: marriage is a commitment to the other person and to God to love and accept that other person so that you can grow and benefit from one another. Marriage is communication and friendship for the days when we are eighty-five with nothing to do but sit and talk to each other, and for all of the days in between. Marriage means being as much of a significant part of his life as he is to mine. Marriage is about creating a partnership in each other and in faith, and declaring that you take that person for all that they are and all that they will be. I could function in life as an individual, but in doing so would never be a whole person. He pushes me to go above and beyond my self-limiting boundaries, and in that has helped create opportunities for me that I may not have had the courage to create on my own. The bad is not as looming and the good is only more enjoyable. Having someone to learn from, grow with and share these moments with, makes me feel like no matter the adventure, we will be able to conquer it all.