Right not the world is in the midst of one of the biggest sporting competitions ever. The Olympics are a celebration of years upon years of hard work and dedication to a passion that has been bred into thousands of individuals from around the world. One of the core values for these individuals is their ability to compete - interestingly in the majority of the interviews after having won a medal, athletes make a comment about how they considered it an honor to compete as part of United Stated team and for our country. This seems like a competition of another kind.
More often than not the idea of competition gets carried into marriage. We think that we are going to one up our spouse because we have gone to the florist and sent flowers to an unsuspecting spouse. Point. We counter with a home cooked meal hot and ready when our spouse walks in the door. Point. We give one of our children the permission to do something one time the other parent would never have allowed. Point. But, what do all of these points add up to? Heartache.
When we compete with our spouse, we neglect the notion that we are supposed to be working towards transformation of Christ likeness. It seems hard to believe that when Christ brought Lazarus back to life, he looked at the Pharisees and said, "Boom. Point J.C." NO. He did not do this. Rather he said that it was not Him who was able to do things, but the power of the Spirit of God that worked through Him. He was working for a greater team - competing as part of the trinity to bring glory and honor to the Father - NOT TO HIMSELF.
This is the attitude we should take in response to our spouses. We should not try and one-up one another in an attempt to show how much we love him/her. We should not try and win our children over to our side as we undermine the respect of the other parent. We SHOULD give of ourselves to the point that we feel as though we have nothing left and then ask, "What else can I do for you, my beloved?" We SHOULD work to wash our spouses with the water of the word so as to see them come closer and closer to their identity in Christ. We SHOULD walk together through this life and work to grow, sanctify, and transform one another through our marriage.
America may be competing for the highest medal count over the next few weeks, but we are working as part of the family of God with our spouses - together.